Confidence: My Word for 2014

For the past couple of years I have seen several bloggers do a post about what their word for the upcoming year would be. Words like “hope,” “balance,” or “change” were their chosen word to inspire them and, for some, to improve their lives somehow.

This year, I decided to come up with my own word and soon realized it wasn’t easy to do. One friend told me what her word was one afternoon via Facebook. Later that day, I wrote a short list of words that came to mind: Persevere. Compassion. Strength. Peace. Faith. Kindness.

Each one of these words expressed what I wanted in some way throughout 2014. Some words would play a much larger role than others but each had their own respective part. But the one word that stuck out most was confidence. 

Choosing confidence: What my word will be in 2014.

After the emotional nightmares I’ve endured and the struggles I’ve gone through in my personal life, confidence made sense. I’ve been fighting like hell to rebuild my confidence. Figure out who I am. Feel so damn good about myself that it radiated off of me for once. To finally believe I am worth something. To finally believe I am awesome and deserve nothing but the best in my life.

The word that stuck out immediately after confidence was peace. The search for and achievement of inner peace as I work on healing and personal growth while ridding myself of the toxins that have poisoned me for far too long. Toxins that have left me bitter, angry, resentful and often too cynical for my own good.

On a side note, when I Googled “my word for the year” one of the links was called My One Word. Though the site is more faith based and on “who God wants us to become,” it’s a great way of looking forward to the new year and focusing on one word instead of a long list of resolutions. This is how they describe the challenge:

The “My One Word” challenge is simple: lose the long the list of changes you want to make this year and instead pick one word. This process forces clarity by taking all of your big plans for life change and narrowing them down into a single thing. Your one word focuses on your character and creates a vision for your future.

Simple. To the point. Honest. And my vision for my future is achieving a level of confidence that I have not seen in years, maybe ever.

I’m determined to be confident in all areas of my life throughout 2014. To stop questioning and doubting my skills, talents, knowledge and capabilities. I’ve been doing it for so long that it’s become almost impossible to believe I am an intelligent woman who is damn good at a few things. My husband and friends say it, but I often question them and wonder if they’re lying just to make me feel better. Now, I intend to focus on believing them.

This upcoming year is already featuring many new challenges for me, ones that will probably push me to my limits and way out of my comfort zone. But now, with the confidence I am slowly rebuilding, I can say I am ready for whatever 2014 brings me. Failure is not an option. Allowing myself to be mistreated is not an option. I’m moving forward and I am determined to make 2014 the best year I’ve had in many years.

Here’s a to an awesome new year!


  1. I’ve always used one word as my personal motto:

    1. Incapable of being conquered, defeated, or subdued.
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  2. I love the one word thing, and I think you picked a great one! I’d probably be stealing it if I hadn’t already thought of my own word! This year I’m going for “mindfulness” because I want to take in and appreciate every moment I can this year, instead of rushing through them.

    2014 WILL be great :)
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    • Great word, Trish! I think in life we tend to rush, rush, rush without realizing there are so many beautiful and interesting things (and people!) around us. It’s exciting when we stop and pay attention to those people and things rather than attempt to race through life. We’ll all be dead some day so what’s the point in rushing to the finish line?

  3. I’ve found that pushing yourself out of your comfort zone is almost always very rewarding. I like your word for 2014. I try to appear confident even when I’m not in a “fake it til you make it” kind of way. Sometimes this helps me to push myself to do something new or meet someone new. Now that you have me thinking about what my 2014 word should be…I’m going to say “SUCCESS” and see where that takes me. Happy New Year Kim!
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    • Thanks, Tina! Really appreciate all the comments you’ve been writing on here lately. Also, success is a great word because it’s so versatile in meaning for all of us. Success could in fact mean something as simple as stepping out of one’s comfort zone! :)

  4. MORE. That’s my word for 2014. And you my dear, while I know you don’t feel like you have it, you are a powerful force – embrace it and the confidence will come.
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    • I read your post about your word and I think WP ate my comment. *sigh* I think it’s great that more for you means something that is emotional in a way and not about material possessions. And you know how to find me if you ever want to get together. I’ll make it a point to connect more often this year.

      And thanks for your kind words about me being a powerful force. It’s hard to believe but I am determined to believe it in 2014. :)

  5. My word for 2014 will be Cake.
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  6. Well said! I agree with you 100%. It’s hard to do anything, even hope, without confidence. Great post (doing a thumbs up)!
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  7. Think you couldn’t have found a more perfect word for the year. Embrace it Kim!
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  8. Hi Kim! I found your site on the SITSgirls forum. I love the idea of picking one word for the year instead of having an overwhelming list of desired changes. I typically shy away from making New Year’s resolutions because I fear failure, but doing nothing is worse than failing in my opinion. Picking a word for the year will allow me to set goals that actually work for what may be going on in my life during the year. Now, off to think of a word for 2014!
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    • Hi, Nicole! Thanks so much for stopping by!

      I certainly understand the fear of failure and not wanting to create resolutions as a result of it. Resolutions, in my opinion, are bound for failure. We all start out with good intentions (and occasionally delusions of grandeur) but ultimately don’t create something realistic or create a plan to put it all into action and make it stick. Goals, I think, are much more doable and achieveable. More concrete I suppose. I wish you all the best in finding your word and setting your goals for the year. Best of luck to you!

  9. I think confidence is a terrific word for 2014! Can’t wait to see what the new year brings you!
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  10. My word is DISCIPLINE – last year my word was relationships and I feel like I was successful. I think discipline is going to be much harder and not as much fun. I love your word – confidence. Great word.
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    • Discipline is a GREAT word, especially when we know we need it or we’re lacking it to some extent. I wish you all the best in achieving/gaining more discipline in 2014. You can do it! :)

  11. Failure is not an option. This was our motto at my previous job. Go forth and conquer because FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION! LOVE IT!
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  12. That’s lovely, I’m still sticking with “ugh” for mine.
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  13. I I have confidence in sunshine. I have confidence in rain. I have confidence that spring will come again. Besides which you see I have confidence in me!

  14. It’s a song. :) It’s from one of my all time favorite musical “The Sound of Music”, it’s a little tune I sing to myself whenever I’m feelin’ down in the dumps.

  15. When my son was little, my motto was “ever vigilant” to keep him safe; now I don’t know…”Be more bitchy” might cover my feelings at this point. Happy New Year!
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